Have you ever noticed how difficult it can be to make the best decision, especially when life-changing issues are at stake... or a ton of money?
I've been racked with worry over house-buying issues for the last few days, trying to figure out the best course of action for the family. Do we move? Why? How will this affect the budget?
Then there are those questions that we should have asked, but really didn't: Can we serve the kingdom better from another location? Is this move going to benefit ONLY us? How much? In what ways? (These questions link back to something I mentioned Tuesday: I'm starting to think along the lines of Christ, but my actions don't necessarily reflect it. I know I should be considering things beyond my family, for my family is to serve the kingdom of God... yet I get more concerned/wrapped up in/obsessed with my immediate, personal needs/wants/cravings.)
Anyway, regarding the house, we finally came to a resolution Tuesday afternoon. We'd buy the new house, continue to work to sell our current house, and let the financial issues work themselves out when they showed up.We would push. It. Through. It didn't seem like the best financial decision, but it could work out--we'd make sure of it. It would please my wife and I could live with the decision.
Then, while running errands last night, I came up with another option, one that I just couldn't see until then. It was like I was blind to it, blind in sight, intellect, and imagination.
I came home, told my wife about the idea... and... she agreed! She. Agreed. I was surprised. But, after all, it is the best decision for us, short and long term. Thankfully, neither of us needed to be hit in order to "get it." (A hit to the head might have helped me. Seriously.)
I don't mean to just blather about my discovery and our house-hunting/purchasing/moving woes. But I do think that what we observe in this example is true to so many of us. It goes back to the old "forrest for the trees" analogy. Sometimes we just CAN'T see the best route or decision, even after seeking counsel (which we did). Counsel helps and should be sought, but sometimes we just need time, space, breathing room to see the truth, to see wisdom.
A friend of mine once told me that if you ever need to make a big decision, use all the time you are given. It's good advice, allowing for perspective to adjust, imagination to kick in, knowledge to percolate, counsel to simmer.
Do you find yourself in a place in which you need to make decisions? Take your time--all the time you're given. Seek counsel. Breathe. Pray (which I haven't mentioned yet). You don't really want to be hit on the side of the head or shaken by the shoulders in order to get sense and perspective into you. It usually doesn't work anyway.
Have you noticed it, though? Truth, sometimes, takes time.